Dealing With People Who Resist or Thwart Confrontation

When you are preparing to confront a resistant person, remember that they also need relationship, safety, and grace. They may resist due to hurt or past experiences that made truth dangerous or unsafe for them. Grace and love are not everything a person needs; however, they are the most important elements they need. In addition, without grace and love, it is unlikely that anything redemptive will happen in your conversation.

Come to the talk being “for” them, knowing that you also are in need of love and grace.

When the person you are confronting reacts negatively (blame, defensiveness, etc.), you will be sorely tempted to respond in kind: anger to anger, blame to blame. This is the most natural thing in the world. When we are attacked, we protect ourselves, and sometimes we attack back. At the same time, the most natural thing in the world may not be the best, most helpful, or most mature thing to do. This is why you need to be in control of how you respond to an attack. If you are not, the tack can quickly degenerate into an argument or alienation.

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Kathleen Notes: You can`t force someone to engage with you...it takes two people to make a relationship work.



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