We Need to Stop Romanticizing Our Lack of Boundaries

I’m a “yes” person. What I mean by that is, I like saying yes to people. I like falling under our society’s praise for compassionate people with big hearts. This has so often led me to burnout. Unchecked generosity with time, material wealth or emotions can lead to frustration and strain in relationships.

Striving to be a compassionate and generous person is a really good thing. However, our society has embraced the idea of having a big heart, putting it on a pedestal without thinking through the possible repercussions. Sometimes, people may use having a “big heart” as an excuse to ignore boundaries for themselves and for others. And they may not even realize they’re doing it.

Being busy and burned out is worn like a medal of honor. Giving constantly is praised even when it isn’t wise, safe or healthy.

Our culture romanticizes and cheers on the “yes” people with big hearts and villainizes the “no” people, branding them as selfish.

But is it really healthy to polarize things so harshly?

Personally, I don’t think so. I think that big-hearted people can have healthy boundaries. I also think that people with healthy boundaries can be big-hearted. It’s critical that we start to change the societal narrative about boundaries.

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Kathleen Notes: This might appear to be the "boundaries" issue. This topic is universally important to all relationships and to a healthy work/life balance.



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