Divorce and Hardness of Heart

Life in Christ means husbands always act with love (present—ongoing—tense in the Greek) toward their wives and are never (aorist tense—even one time) harsh (Col. 3:19). Wives don’t go to war against their husbands (Col. 3:19). There is no sexual acting out or even mental sexual objectifying outside of the marriage (Matt. 5:28). A husband is as devoted to his wife’s welfare as Christ is to the church (Eph. 5:25) and wives study and even seek counsel to learn how to love their husbands well (Titus 2:4) and live with a kind, encouraging spirit while also maintaining sexual purity (Titus 2:5), as their husbands are called to do elsewhere. If we live like this—and all followers of Jesus are invited to, empowered to, and commanded to—there will be no need for divorce. There will be no “hardness of heart” (meanness) that a husband or wife needs to be saved from.

Which means when we address divorce as Jesus does we should emphasize removing the causes of divorce more than we decry the application of divorce. Because sometimes divorce is necessary. When meanness has reached abusive levels; when rampant infidelity is not repented of; when the soul of a man or woman is being emptied by the cruelty of his or her spouse, divorce becomes the necessary tool to separate the earnest soul from the toxic, destructive meanness of their spouse.


Kathleen Notes: God hates divorce but not divorced people.

- - Volume: 10 - WEEK: 19 Date: 5/5/2022 11:31:23 AM -