Are We Falling Out of Love?

You remember the sleepless nights and the lightheadedness you experienced after seeing her big, beautiful smile light up a room. You recall when just the thought of him holding your hand caused shortness of breath and a queasy stomach.

In some countries, they call that malaria.

In our culture, we call it romance.

In fact, years ago two doctors actually presented at the Congress of Internal Medicine in Wiesbaden, Germany, the idea that Liebeskummer – love sickness – is a definite medical ailment replete with physical symptoms.

At this point in your marriage, are you wondering where the “symptoms” went?

Sustaining the emotional excitement of romance, or “being in love,” can be difficult at best – and physically draining at worst. The shimmer of courtship is often replaced with the realities of budget crunches and dirty diapers.

Dorothy Tennov, a clinical psychologist who worked with thousands of couples, said that romantic love, on average, lasts only three years.Dorothy Tennov, Love and Limerence (Lanham, Maryland: Scarborough House, 1999). Does that sound depressing? If there’s any truth to what she said, and if marriage is a lifetime commitment, we need to adjust the way we approach romance.

Romance is only one of the types of love important in marriage. If you think of marriage as a house, four kinds of love are like the components that make the house complete.

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Kathleen Notes: True love often looks different than we think...



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