Your Spouse Is Not the Enemy

Ever felt like you were on two sides of the battlefield trying to wage war with one another? Maybe you raise your voice to emphasize a point and your spouse raises their voice right back (or retreats to another room). Perhaps you nitpick one another endlessly to show how the other could do it better, differently, or more like you. Maybe you think your spouse gets to go have all the fun and you are stuck having to watch the kids. There are probably countless scenarios in which you might feel that you and your spouse are not on the same page and in fact playing against each other in the “game” of love, relationship, life, or whatever you want to call it. My guess is that if you find yourself in competition with your spouse on a regular basis, it probably leaves you feeling pretty discouraged and weary. It may even lead to wanting off your team. (If this describes you, please consider intensive marriage counseling before it is too late)

It just isn’t any fun to be going against someone with whom you desire, or at least at one time desired, to be on your side. After all, the purpose of marriage has never been about competition with one another. God’s word describes marriage in this way: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24.) That sounds like anything but competition. Unity is the goal of marriage. Not sameness where we look, think, act, and believe all the same things. Sameness leads to one person being unnecessary. Instead, God appears to desire unity of purpose (to glorify Him) while maintaining, honoring, admiring, and accepting uniqueness. After all, the body of Christ is called to be unified but cannot function unless multiple body parts are represented. Both of you are important to your team and your team is important to God, your children and those around you.


Kathleen Notes: Truth...and at the same time, please recognize that there IS an enemy at work. His goal is to kill and destroy.

- - Volume: 9 - WEEK: 45 Date: 11/4/2021 9:13:33 AM -